Nelly had an article featured in Essence Magazine at the beginning of October titled "Single Women Are Looking For the 'Perfect Guy.' Throughout the article Nelly commented on some key points when it comes to finding that "special someone." Nelly noted that not only do some people search for perfection but they also search for someone who will be "perfect" in society's eyes."I've seen girls turn down a nice guy because he didn't look the part, but
he was a great guy. He had the job, he treated her special, he did everything
she asked, but he didn't quite look the part. Then you got the guy that look the
part, but he ain't on the job." - Nelly
Nelly had made some valid points when it comes to the topic of relationship however; Nelly failed to acknowledge how men do the EXACT same thing. In today's society the perception of beauty in reference to females is light skin, long hair and light eyes. Whether that perception is being glamorized in music videos, song lyrics, television shows etc; light skin is viewed as superior or better than any other skin tone. I feel that one should seek beauty in another's personality, NOT just solely on appearance. Yes, there has to be some physical attraction when it comes to finding a mate but, that shouldn't be the only thing one considers when determining whether they like or love someone.
It is commonly understood that nice guys/girls finish last when it comes to relationships and in actuality it is true. The nice ones always get taken advantage of and get labeled as being "too soft" or "too clingy." Some people must understand that there is NOTHING wrong with someone treating you with lots of TLC. Ladies and Gentlemen please open your minds as well as your hearts.
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